Being the member of a big family, I have to meet many  of my relatives once in a month. The previous week was ‘visitors week’ for us. We had to entertain some of our relatives during this time. I didn’t get the time to be with my blog. We had to make food for them, we had to arrange many things for their comforts and we had to go with them to visit the old acquaintances. Somehow, it is an enjoyable thing. Our visitors were two nuns and they had been with us for almost one week. It was many years back they had a visit to the native place.

It is a pleasure to see some old relatives, we can share many things, we have a lot to talk to them and they have a lot to tell us. We can cook together with them, it is really nice to make special dishes for their happiness. After a short period they will leave us, but we will be remembered with love and affection. We have a lot to learn from such an atmosphere; respect to others, how to share our things and time, how to be patient and tolerant and we are learning to understand and adjust as per the situation.

But there are relatives, who may be intolerable, whom we may like to avoid. Recently, we have another cousin, who likes to involve and interfere in the life of others. Their family life may be full of nuisance, but without rectifying it, they are keen to interfere in other’s life. They may visit regularly with vested interests, they may ask about the bank balance, about our personal family matters etc.

We can have both the types of relatives in a joint family. We must be judicious, and cunning while dealing with them, it is advisable to think twice before plunging into an action. Cheating, favoritism, and hypocrisy all will be there in one family. 

But we can make it a heaven, with love, affection, respect, sincerity and co-operation. While having a self-respect, we should respect others and their feelings and suggestions. Recognition and encouragement, these two can strengthen our relationships. A happy family is a dream, that we can build with these qualities. 

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Today is the day for our parents and grandparents. We, youths usually do not admire or respect their services, love and care. Do we need such a day to remember our parents, grandparents and our dear ones? We are parents and we have parents, each day goes on as usual, who has the time to remember old people? or who are worried about their needs? All are busy with their own problems and jobs. We have aged people in our homes. We give them food, clothes and medicines regularly. They are looked after, all their needs are fulfilled. But, still we need another day to remember our aged parents. It seems quite ironical? 

On this day for the older people, let us remember all the aged people. They have worked hard for us, to give us proper food, clothes, shelter and education. They have renounced all they had for bringing up us. They were with us, caring us, when we fell ill. We have nothing to give back to them for their love, care and protection. When we became self reliant, we flew away from them. We have love and respect to our parents and grandparents, but our excuse is ‘ we don’t have time’.

We don’t have time to be with them, to talk with them, to spend  a little time with them. Really, they are expecting that. They don’t want any luxury, they need us, their children, to embrace once more. We should express our respect and love, for that,we should find time to be with them. Before going to office, we can meet and ask,” mother or father how are you? I am going, do you need anything special?” Just embrace them, and they need only that. They won’t demand us anything, just one or two minutes!! We can dine with our parents once in a week, share our problems, listen their advises and experiences. We should care them, and we can create a feeling in them that, they are loved and not unwanted. 

Our little kids have a lot to learn from them. They are the encyclopedias of experiences, they may share their life as stories and each story will definitely has a moral; and that gives our kids the confidence and guidance.

A number of aged people are suffering because of loneliness and diseases. Let us remember them on this day and respect and value their services.



BREASTFEEDING SUPPORT : CLOSE TO MOTHERS. This the theme of World Breast Feeding Week in 2013, and we are going through that period now. It is an annual celebration held, during the first week of August. It was formed in 1991 to promote, protect and support breast feeding. It has been organized by WHO,WBW, and UNICEF and it aims to promote exclusive breast feeding for six months. It is intended to aware the mothers about the nutrient benefits of breast feeding, how it resists the deadly diseases like pneumonia and how it helps to build an emotional attachment between the mother and child. 

UNICEF celebrates World Breastfeeding Week on 120 countries, baby friendly hospitals are established to promote breast feeding. Mothers are taught, the necessity of breast feeding and they are taught how to hold the baby while breast feeding and how many times they should feed the baby a day, what they should eat to produce healthy and enough milk.

Most of the mothers are willing to breastfeed; while breastfeeding, a loving bond is formed between the mother and baby. Mother should hold her baby in the arm, resting the child’s head on the arm. Hold the baby very close to the chest and stomach of the mother and feed the baby sitting straight in that posture. The child may look into the eyes of the mother, resting his/ her little hand on the breast of its mother. While feeding look into the eyes of the baby, hold the little hand and give a kiss; he is slowly, getting that, it is the person, who loves him, protects him and cares him. He/ she may soon start to recognize its mother, start to babble. The child is growing fast with the support and milk of its mother. While giving milk, the child is experiencing the warmth of mother’s love and care. While feeding for six months, he/ she may get the nutrient factors that are essential for its all round growth. The mother can introduce little amount of cereals during this period along with the mother’s milk. It is good to breastfeed the baby when he/ she gets two years old. The loving bond will always be there.

It is not easy for working mothers to feed the baby for six months and feed her child holding in the arms. She may be compelled to go for the work entrusting the child with any care taker. Mothers should be given six months maternity leave for breastfeeding the baby. When, it is not possible, nurseries can be build in offices and they can feed their baby whenever they want. Breast feeding mothers usually need support from partners, in-laws and from friends and peers; for they are bringing up our new generation.



Father's Day

Father’s day is celebrated to honor fathers, fatherhood and the loving bond between father and children. The third Sunday of June is the widely recognized date as father’s day, but in many countries it fall on different time. It was started to complement mother’s day, shortly, people began to express their love and gratitude towards their fathers on  father’s day. Now, kids are keen to give gifts to their fathers to show their love.

I am with a different thought, while browsing on father’s day, most pictures show the love between the father and daughter, there is a commonly accepted feeling that, usually, girls are more attached to fathers. I was also lucky to enjoy the love, care and security of my father. There was a telepathic attachment between me and my father. He was there, when I need the support. Most of the girls may earn for the protection, care and affection; they may be getting these from their fathers.

Father is the head of the family, but both father and mother have equal responsibility in bringing up children. Father should not be machine for earning money. Most of the children enjoy a feeling of security while being with father. That feeling will boost the confidence of the child, he or she may be strong-willed to face the challenges, and he or she may be talented enough to solve the problems. 

But, there is  fathers, who love to be on their own, only interested in their own affairs. Some of them may earn money and there ends their sole responsibility, the rest lies with the mother. Some may like to spend their time with friends and other entertainments, kids too come only secondary. 

A real loving bond should be formed between father and child; for that, the father should be with their kids during their growth. The whole family revolves around him, if he is responsible and loving, the kids too will learn to love and they too will be responsible. Fathers are the role models, so they should behave like that. A responsible father can correct his children, stand with them and there we can see a strong bond made of love and confidence.

On father’s day, let us wish, it were not be another day for celebration.



children's day

Some countries celebrate June 1 as the International children’s day; the date varies in different nations and is known in different names as international children’s day and Universal children’s day. However, it is for the well-being of children. We all like to see the happy and smiling face of our kids, while celebrating a day for kids, we may preach, ‘kids are gifts of God, they are the molders of the coming world, and the nation’s future lies in the hands of these kids’ . Do all the children enjoy the same freedom, comfort and happiness?

A very few number are lucky to have the joy and comforts of life, but most are born to poverty. They are deprived of all their rights, like food, education, health and shelter. In under developed countries, the great sufferers are the kids, they do not get enough and nutritious food. They are living in poor sanitation and unhealthy surrounding. Not only that, they may have to suffer sexual assaults from elders. It seems, they are living because they are born to live, suffering all these discomforts. Many organizations and countries are doing some philanthropic activities, but those are not at all sufficient. 

Each child has the right to get proper food and education. Financial supports should be given to the poor parents for giving the kids food, shelter and education. At schools mid day meals should be given to children and it should be nutritious too. Free education should be given till grade 12. Along with intellectual growth, they should be given proper sexual education to rescue them from sexual assaults. Free vaccinations are a must for getting immunization from many diseases. 

Kids should be born from the love of the parents. First, they need the affection, love and protection. Let them find happiness in playing with their peers. Some kids are exploited by using as workers; they may be earning money by the age of 10. It should be strictly prohibited. We all have the right to make the lives of our children comfortable. Let us try to bloom smiles in the faces of our children, they are our angels. 



International Day of Families

Family, the word gives me strength; a strong and passionate bonding is there. It is the place where you can love and be loved, you can sooth and be soothed, you can care and be cared. Thank God for being brought up in a family that is bonded only with love. Really, it gives me the strength and courage to move forward or to  face the challenges in the present life.

UN celebrates May 15 as the International Day of Families. It has started to observe this special day from 1994. This year’s theme is Advancing social integration and Inter generational solidarity. Very interesting theme to follow, as it is relevant in the present world. The way of socializing is a challenge for the new generation; all are living in the mechanical world. We have all the amenities at our command. Mobile phone, television and computer are consuming the time of most of us. Whenever we get free time, everybody likes to be engaged either in phone or in computer. Our socializing ends with social net working sites. It is good to have connection with so many people from all around the world; but do not forget the people living nearby us. Somebody in the neighborhood  may need your help and support. You may be willing to help, but you are not seeing the neighbor, as the world is busy with so many communication methods. What to say!, even family members forget to help each other, you are the  most needed by your family members, by your loved ones, and by your friends. The skill of socializing should be learnt first from the family, share all you have with your family members; talk with them, discuss with them, then we have started to socialize. Such a generation will be sympathetic with his fellow beings.

Generation Gap, it is the word that most of us may use to explain the quarrels with parents and children. There is generation gap, each generation is blessed with new comforts, but they have to face new challenges too. If there is a strong bond with love and affection, the generation gap will disappear. Think with the children, try to understand their concepts and ideas. Congratulate them for their right decisions then we could correct them when they get wrong. Prompt them to take responsibility, be with them when they need you.

We need strong families to have strong community and to have strong nations then we can have a confident new generation.


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Happy Mother's Day with Rosa Indica It is almost one week that I have written a post in my blog.  Today also I am not comfortable enough to sit straight and make one. But I think, I have really missed the Mother’s day. That is why I am here to write one to remember the love, care and affection of a mother that we all love to have and fortunately that I am having.

I am on rest due to severe back pain, which forced me to stay in bed. The past one week was terrible with pain that restricted me from every action. Breathing too was difficult. During that days I was enjoying my mother’s support, love and care. She was there always to give me whatever I needed; made food for me, washed my clothes,looked after my child, and  made all arrangements for me. She had to act in many roles as mother, care taker, grand mother and she was the all in all in our home. Even though she is above 60 years with so many heath problems, she was ready to do all the services without any complaints. Really, the love of our mother remembers us the value of the word ” Mother”. She  is the person that all love to have; or all love to own.

A child needs the love, care and affection of its mother for the all round development. She can pacify the kid from its sorrows, she can support him as a friend, she can protect him  and she can control him. A child finds security in his mother’s hands. When he grows older, that love and protection will definitely guide him. Motherly love can control a child, when the child commits a mistake he may remember the love of his mother. That love is like a lamp which guides  us.  We can quarrel with her, make complaints and share our dreams and thoughts. 

We should love our mothers and should respect them. A wish on her birthday and a visit with a gift can do wonders. Many mothers are experiencing loneliness during their old age. It is the time when they need the support of their children. Embrace her, kiss her when we visit her. Express the love that we have received from her.  Mother is our first teacher, guide and friend. She is the gift God has given us to be in the world. So love her, love is the only reward that we can give her in return.