JOINT FAMILY

 

family

Being the member of a big family, I have to meet many  of my relatives once in a month. The previous week was ‘visitors week’ for us. We had to entertain some of our relatives during this time. I didn’t get the time to be with my blog. We had to make food for them, we had to arrange many things for their comforts and we had to go with them to visit the old acquaintances. Somehow, it is an enjoyable thing. Our visitors were two nuns and they had been with us for almost one week. It was many years back they had a visit to the native place.

It is a pleasure to see some old relatives, we can share many things, we have a lot to talk to them and they have a lot to tell us. We can cook together with them, it is really nice to make special dishes for their happiness. After a short period they will leave us, but we will be remembered with love and affection. We have a lot to learn from such an atmosphere; respect to others, how to share our things and time, how to be patient and tolerant and we are learning to understand and adjust as per the situation.

But there are relatives, who may be intolerable, whom we may like to avoid. Recently, we have another cousin, who likes to involve and interfere in the life of others. Their family life may be full of nuisance, but without rectifying it, they are keen to interfere in other’s life. They may visit regularly with vested interests, they may ask about the bank balance, about our personal family matters etc.

We can have both the types of relatives in a joint family. We must be judicious, and cunning while dealing with them, it is advisable to think twice before plunging into an action. Cheating, favoritism, and hypocrisy all will be there in one family. 

But we can make it a heaven, with love, affection, respect, sincerity and co-operation. While having a self-respect, we should respect others and their feelings and suggestions. Recognition and encouragement, these two can strengthen our relationships. A happy family is a dream, that we can build with these qualities. 

See also : http://astraunic.com/2013/03/12/family/

http://astraunic.com/2013/02/19/family-day/

http://astraunic.com/2013/08/29/telephone-blessing-or-nuisance/

FAMILY.

Heaven Is Here

When you are in extreme stress, which will be your last resort? Death? Of course not, it should not be!!!. Then, yes, it will be your family, your home.

What do we expect from a family? We all love to have a happy, caring and loving family. Normally, it consists of father, mother, two or three children. All love and live in a harmony. If it is so, it is the heaven in the world.

In ancient times, a family consists of lots of people, grandparents, uncles and aunts. It was a joint family and in that all shared their feelings, works, sorrows and happiness. The children were grown with a freedom to mingle with a number of people. The feeling of security was firm there. Children learned the lessons of sharing; greed and jealousy were kept away from that unity. Women were respected and they got a support from all. Prayer was the great binding force.

But, later it became unpractical, and people began to build their own independent homes, with parents and children, so it became a small one. They became more and more self- centered. Both father and mother has to run frantically to earn the money, all the relationships became money- oriented. If you have the money, you will be respected and if you don’ t have, you will be avoided. So, all are working hard to earn more and more. Children are forgotten. They are growing up with carers in crushes. How will there characters be formed? All the family members are seeing only in the night and by then they will be tired and torn out because of the hectic activities of the day. Some are relaxed seeing the television, some find consolation in computers and mostly the women prefer to sleep. The day ends there, nobody is talking properly, listening attentively, sharing the day’s happenings or consoling each other. Finally, children find comforts in some addiction or they seek for another persons. Husband- wife relationships are spoiled. Aged parents are sent to old- age homes. LOVE IS FORGOTTEN.

When you eagerly wish for love, and care, everything will be ruined. We should find time to spend together. In the modern world money is a necessity  but in the frantic run for earning money, family and its virtues should not be forgotten.  Parents have the responsibility to bring up the kids with affection and love. Find time for family prayers, and have the supper with all the family members. These two help a lot to share what you have to tell in the family. We can take decisions on important matters at this time. Each member deserves the attention and if we can give this our family will become the real heaven.

 

See also:  http://astraunic.com/2013/02/19/family-day/

Family Day

Dream Day True Love

 

We all love to be in the security of our loved ones, to be in the circle of our beloveds. While thinking about such an occasion I happened to ponder on the family day. For most, it is on second or third Monday of February.  Another day for celebration; is it like that?

No, never, it should not be like that. Family is the place where, we can shed our woes, sorrows, anxiety and all. Not only that we are sharing our happiness, achievements and the like. We are getting inspiration, praises etc. What a peaceful experience to be in the midst of our beloved ones! I love to share; my views, ideas and everything, even if it is foolishness; in my family circle. At the time of our education, our parents waited for us to hear the words from us,  and we shared the happenings of a day. No lies, and no secrets there. How peaceful it was, all our doings were with the knowledge and  permission of our parents. So, we did not have anything to worry about, we knew that, there is our dear ones with us whatever be the situation.

Now also, many families follow the sharing, and enjoying the peaceful atmosphere. I am also keen to give that freedom and security to my kid. I think, most of the crimes are happening because of the lack of sharing. Majority did not have a quiet support to listen and pacify. All are after their jobs and for financial security. Of course, it is essential to have a peaceful family life, but most important is the strongly  bind family. If there, is love and a strong knitted relationship between the parents and kids, all the other will follow it.  Children will definitely obey and respect  their parents and elders and we can be proud that, we are bringing up a new, strong willed and responsible generation. That is the world now needs the most.