I have been on short leave for the past ten days. We were having a short vacation, schools are closed for the ten days and so I had to stay with my son to entertain him and to be with him in his plays. It is the regular mid-term holidays that we usually have, it is associated with our harvest festival, that is ONAM. Actually, it is the ‘ONAM HOLIDAYS’ that we have in every year on August or September. It is associated with our regional calendar and we celebrate it on the month of Chingam (that is on local calendar) and it falls on mid-August. This time Onam was on the last days of Chingam and so in the middle of September. The great ruler Mahabali is remembered on this day. There is a myth that, he will come to visit his favorite people on this day and so people are making all the arrangements to receive their beloved ruler. 

It is the big festival that all people in our region celebrate. Children are so particular to have new dress, and outings. On that particular day, we have had vegetarian meals with so many  palatable dishes.Onam-saddyaBoth children and elders like to swing, and dance like Thiruvathirakali. The floral arrangement is one of the most important thing that we do on Onam. We too had a small one arranged on our veranda. My son and his cousins did it beautifully. In the noon, we had a delicious meal, and in the end the sweet delicacy called ‘Payasam‘. Really, it was a cool day for celebration.Our pookalam


But this year’s Onam holidays were shortened because of the exams. Children have their Summative Assessments after the Onam vacation and it starts today on. It was a tedious task to compel the kids to prepare for the exams. After enjoying for three days, I asked my son to start his studies. I had to sit with him to cover all the subjects. He was hesitant to start the studies during vacation. I know that, it is not fare to ask him to study during holidays, but I had to. After so many compulsion and encouragements we managed to complete the revision.  But, I think, children get easily adapted to the situation. We may be irritated, hot-tempered and arrogant, if we are asked to do anything while we are enjoying; but for kids, their agitation ends very soon.




Stop Suicide

I happened to hear the suicide of an 11-year-old boy a few days back. First the news spread as the boy got hanged during his play, I thought how pathetic it was? A small negligence took the life, what would be the reaction of his parents and relatives? How could they tolerate this? All these worried me a lot; and really, kid’s aloofness while playing hounded me. I thought of my son and advised him to be careful while playing.

But two days later, I heard that, that boy’s death was not accidental, it was a suicide, another great shock!!!!!!, I could not believe my ears, how a small kid of 11 year could commit suicide, how he could even think of ending his life, what did he know about death, why? “there is no answer”. Our kids are terrifying us. 

He might be worried, something might had happened at school, or at home or from parents or friends or from teachers. But, poor kid, if he could find anybody to share his feelings, or if he found anybody to pacify him or console him, he would have been here to enjoy his life. 

Our kids are growing, in the world that offers a lot, more comforts, more technologies, more opportunity for entertainment, more friendships and more money. They are enjoying or they are immersed in all these, but it seems, they are not aware of the sorrows and needs of their fellow beings. They don’t want to, they are satisfied on what they get. 

We should be more careful, while giving them all comforts, we should teach them, what the real world is. A large number of people are deprived of all these luxuries. We should teach them to share, the give and take will strengthen the relationships, a bond will be formed between people. This may support us. While having all these we are deprived of unconditional, sacrificing and serving love. 

Let us find time to be with our kids, they have a lot to share. Let them speak out their sorrows, joys, gains and loses. Embrace them, appreciate them and console them. Be with them to build up a confidence to go forward to enjoy the beauty of their lives. There is only one life, let us make it worth with virtues.


Blessed Virgin Mary

Yesterday, September 8 was the birthday of Blessed Virgin Mary. There is no remark on the Scriptures about the birthday of Blessed Virgin Mary, but Catholics celebrate September 8 as the nativity of Blessed Virgin Mary. Mostly the feast of Saints are celebrated on the date of their death, but Virgin Mary is born without sin, so the birthday also is celebrated. Many Catholics are on lent from September 1 to 7, they go to Church, say Rosary and spend the time on prayer and repentance. There is a strong belief that, Mary will stand as the mediator for our prayers.

Born to the parents, Saint Anne and Saint Joachim, Mary spent her time in prayers and services. When the Angel Gabriel visited her with the news of becoming the mother of the Son of God, she was firm and courageous. Even though, her marriage was fixed with Joseph, she was not worried and never questioned. She surrendered her will to the Will of God, Gabriel had promised that, “God is with you” and Mary was strong all through her life that she believed that “God is with me”, never hesitated, never doubted and never complained, she was always there behind her son, the Lord Jesus.

For the birth of God’s son, she had to travel a lot and she got only the cow-shed, no help from anybody, only the care of her husband. But, she never questioned, why God’s son is born in a cow-shed, she understood that, it is the will of God. Again, both Joseph and Mary had to flee to save Infant Jesus from the attack of Herod. When she lost Jesus at the age of 12 in a church, she never doubted that ‘ is this really God’s son’. She kept silence all the time and spent her time in prayer.

As a mother, she was never possessive to keep her dear son with her. When Jesus was on His mission, she was never worried about His security and she was never anxious. At last Mary had to witness the death of her innocent son on cross. Then also she never thought that, why God’s son had to meet such a pathetic death’, why he could not escape from the cross?’ She believed in the word of God or she believed in what the Angel Gabriel had said, ” God is with You”. She was full of Grace, so she could tolerate all these. She was selected by God to lead the way for the people. Her life is her way, that is Surrendering her will to the Will of God. So God rewarded her, her son was resurrected, she is now respected as the Mother of the Whole World. 

Let us pray to the Blessed Virgin Mary to save us, to save our kids, to save the world. She will be there with us with the blessings of God.



Talented Kids

My son studies in grade 3; recently I have to train him for the competitions like, elocution, recitation and story telling. It was a challenge to teach him and train him for the three items; since the competitions were held just after the exams. Just the day after the exams, they were asked to enroll the names of those who intend to participate in the competitions. First they had the primary rounds that took place in the classes; from each division, two boys and two girls were selected for the final events. All for this he got 5 days.

The subject for elocution was ” The Influence of Television”. I wrote one elocution that consisted of 17-20 sentences; along with it I took the poem, “All Things Beautiful” by C.F. Alexander for recitation and the story “Nails in the Fence” that tell about how to control anger, for story telling. The poem is so simple for kids to learn; I shortened the story to make it easy and gave an introduction about the content.

He was interested to learn the elocution first, he learned it and later, I taught him how to present it. He had to stand straight and say the words with firm voice and tone. When he understood the meanings, it was easier for him to present it with confidence.

Then he learned the recitation and the story followed it. He could present it well in the class and he got selection too. We are waiting for the result of the final competition. He had to compete with grade 4 students, but the participation gave him confidence and self-respect. He was very happy that he could learn the three within the short period and he could present it in front of the teachers.

Competitions are good for kids, but parents should be careful while insisting them to participate. They are competing, but not only for the prizes, all  kids are talented, some may win and some may lose. If we lose, we can correct our mistakes before coming for the next time. If we win, then also we have to be more cautious to collect more points for the next time. We can train the kids to select the poems and stories by themselves, for elocution they can suggest their own points. A competitive spirit is good for learning too. It may prompt them to read more and they may become more interested in their studies. We should teach them to congratulate the one who have won and console them who have lost. A healthy and loving relationships will be build up there and there may be no place for jealousy.


See also  : http://astraunic.com/kids-world/parenting/kids-talents-how-should-it-be-encouraged/




Land Phone

It is almost one week since I have written anything here. Busy with so many other commitments. Today, I am again with a new thought, that is on telephone. 

Telephone is a great invention by Alexander Graham Bell. By the end of 19th century, we had this surprise with which we had talked and we are talking a lot. Earlier, we used land phones and in the first decades of 21st century on we are having mobile phones and now each day comes up with new surprise on mobile phones.

We have both mobiles and land phones in our home, mobile phones for the elders and land phone for the common use. Most people have both phones. On land phone, we are making common calls, ringing up our relatives; and in mobile phones we prefer to talk with our beloveds and friends, to talk with whom we need to have privacy or if we want to hide anything from our family.

Earlier, we were free to travel where we want, we were free to meet anybody and we were free to be late. Really, we were not observed, there was only one phone in home and that too is the land phone. All on a sudden we had the mobile phones, that wonder conquered the market, with a number of service provider; and each one offers a lot for their customers. Now, it has become a status symbol to have the latest mobile phone with us. While it conquered the market, it conquered our freedom too. We are observed, we are not allowed to be late; whenever, we are late, we are supposed to inform because we have the mobile phone.

It is a blessing as it helps to nurture relationships, we can ring up our relatives and they can ring up us too. It is soothing to hear the voices of some while we are in pain.

Sometimes, it may become a nuisance, disturbing our privacy and may become mean when we use it for discussing the mistakes of others. We can expect a call at any time on our mobile phone, there is no concern on time, place or attitude.

In some way, it has a role in making our schedule busy and accelerating our tension. We can’t wait for anybody and for anything, we may take our phone and ring the other one. When we didn’t have a phone, we could wait for long; but now waiting has become impossible. 




For the past two days, we are hearing the terrific news of the use of chemical weapons in Syria. Syrian rebels claim that, the Syria government led by Bashar al- Assad used the chemical weapons against them to suppress their movements against the authority. Around 1,300 people were reportedly killed. The government accuses the rebels.

The death toll is rising, the real sufferers are women and children. It is really pathetic to see the photos of the dead children,what they  have done, what is the mistakes they have committed? Nothing! they are the innocent victims, they are the little angels who were deprived of their right to live.

The world and the UN have the awareness that Syria possesses chemical weapons and they all feared that they may use it or the rebels may use it. We don’t know, who have used it, we don’t want to know it. The only thing, we know is the innocent faces of the children and poor women. The developed countries and the UN proved their inability to react spontaneously, they are studying the possibilities of who have done this and what is the chemical used and they are scrutinizing the incident. Whatever be the intention, it proved man’s inefficiency, intolerance and greed for acquiring more; while claiming that we are a developed  high-tech world with intelligent citizens.

On 1988, the late ruler of Iraq, Saddam Hussein, used chemical weapons against the Kurdish. We know the cruelty of it, but, we were not able to ban the use of deadly weapons. Most of the countries boast of having nuclear power; it is like a threat to the man kind. Anything can happen at any time. Who is safe, who is calm and who is stress free? We don’t have an answer. Each country desires to show off its power,while they claim at the same time of being the one world because of the high tech facilities.

Let us pray for the poor victims of Syria and it is the time to re-think about possessing nuclear weapons and chemical weapons. Each one has the right to live comfortably, let our kids have the freedom to enjoy the high-tech world as it is.  





Yesterday, 20 August was World Mosquito Day. It is on August 20, 1897, that the British doctor, Sir Ronald Ross made the historic link that the female mosquitoes spread malaria.

Mosquito is one of the challenges that the modern world has to face. Is there anybody who hasn’t experienced a mosquito bite? There may be nobody; it is all there to disturb you as a nuisance and as a threat. Earlier, mosquito bites were ignored simply, but when it was discovered that, they are the transmitters of many deadly diseases, it became a threat. They are the carriers of all the killer viruses of malaria, dengue fever and chicken guinea. Each one is spread by the distinct variety. Some are found in fresh water and some are found in everywhere. Pleasant and sunny climate is good for its breeding. The eggs may remain in the soil or blocked water for long and when it becomes sunny it will turn out as mosquitoes to bite us.

We may be trying every method to keep away the nuisance, mainly because of our fear of these diseases. We have to protect our young kids from the mosquito bites. Some are trying creams, some are closing each hole, window and ventilator and doors  with nets to stop the mosquitoes from entering into our homes. But when we go to the bus stop or railway station or when we want to travel late in the evening, there is the mosquito with its stinging needle. Hygiene, both personal and public, is the only technique to escape from the mosquitoes. It should start from each one of us. We should keep our rooms, houses and the surrounding areas clean. Water should be drained away, bushes should be removed and the waste should be managed properly. The government should conduct awareness programs and the organizations should take initiatives to clean up the slums. It is the only way to rescue the world from the deadly disease spread by mosquitoes. We can do it, we must do it, it is the responsibility of each citizen to keep the surrounding clean and clear.